Hey, friends. Long time no talk. Sorry for the lack of posts and sudden changes. As most of you who follow my blog know, it started as a project for a social media class. I originally wanted it to be all about how I was working on balancing college and life- working to improve some of my personal goals, reflected in mind, body and soul.
Now, I graduated college and I’ve been successfully adulting all summer! Hold your applause, please. Between my internship, part time job, friends moving away, me moving back home, and just like life ya know? it’s been a whirlwind summer. Seriously, where did the time go? Feels like just yesterday I was clearing out my sweatshirts and pulling out my bathing suits.
It’s been a full three months into the real world without the training wheels and so far, it’s been a pretty big transitioning period in my life. In case you didn’t notice, I changed the name of my blog to Erin Leigh Ever After, since I started a new chapter of my life. I’m working on my own little piece of happily ever after. (It’s true, a happy life is possible after college!) As I venture through adulthood and things begin to change in my life and my relationships begin to shift and transform, I’m learning a lot about myself and who I want to be.
If you’re someone like me, stuck in the limbo-land of young adulthood, here are some tips on how to get your own happily ever after and how I’ve been working to locate my own happy-place.
Take every opportunity. Become a “yes”-(wo)man. If your boss asks you to take on extra work- yes. If you get a chance to go to the city- yes. If you want to go on that roller coaster even though your terrified- yes. If you want to try a bite of this food that looks really weird- yes. Take every little chance you get and always be willing to try something once before writing it off.
Don’t forget about your passions. Think for a second about what you like to do. Not what you have to do for once. And I don’t just mean going out and going to parties (because, I mean who doesn’t like that?). But think about what actually makes you happy. Do you like to read? Run? Paint? Do more of it and do it shamelessly and make no apologies for it. introduce others to your passions and give theirs a try. Filling your life with passion will make you positively radiant.
Healthy mind, healthy life. Don’t dwell on the negatives. It’s easy to get caught up in the things that didn’t work out the way you wanted them to. Just remember who is ultimately in charge of your life: you. If you constantly think about the things going wrong in your life, you won’t have time to appreciate when things go right. This is your life, you only get one. Don’t waste it dwelling on what could go wrong or what should have happened.
Don’t stop learning. It’s only been three months since I walked across the stage and grabbed my diploma, and I can already name at least four classes I wish I had the opportunity to take. Just because you graduated doesn’t mean you need to stop learning. There’s a million things you can learn to do still that you may love! You can make pottery or you can knit. You can learn to cook, teach yourself graphic design, or take up photography. There is so much left to do. Try something new, you could end up loving it and who knows where that can take you.
Put more kindness into the world. I’ve recently noticed I’ve been saying hello to or giving a smile to everyone I walk by. I can honestly say that I didn’t realize how much I was holding back kindness before. It makes my day when an older woman says hello or someone stops to pet one of my poodles when I’m walking the dogs. When I get off the elevator at work and the man staying in says have a good day, YOU TOO, SIR, YOU TOO! With all the awful things going on in the world, the place can use a little more kindness in it, don’t you think? Make sure your doing your part putting it out there.
Life is tough. You don’t always get what you want. You know how they say, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade? Sometimes life doesn’t even give you lemons- it gives you a pile of rocks and you’re like wtf can I do with this?! I think the best way to handle the inevitable rocky road that is life is with a sense of humor, good friends, and an even tougher helmet.
It’s only been three months into the real world and it’s been a roller coaster of emotions. An abundance of laughs, a downfall of tears, saying nice to meet you’s, see you later’s, and goodbyes. But so far, life is good. To quote my favorite literary character, the infamous August Waters:
“I’m on a roller coaster that only goes up, my friend.”
And I hope you all stay with me as I continue on my own journey!